Thursday, October 1, 2009

what is a support group

When I first got to know that I have a leukemia, I almost confused with my own reaction.To be exact, I did not know how should I react. Slowly I noticed that a lot of emotions started to come in... feeling sad, worried, afraid and anxious to know what was the next thing that could happen to me. Frankly, I did not turn into tears until I started to break the news to my love ones, one by one.
I presumed that I will be okay since I am myself a doctor, and thinking that I am still fortunate to be always in a situation where everything done on me was in the shortest time and most convenient possible. I never felt that I need to share with other people burdened with the same problem like mine. I knew that I could have control on myself, I could find answer to any issue and think I could walk this journey alone without trying to find somebody like me to share the problem along.
Until one day, someone and few others like me, sit, talked and shared things that we have in common... i.e. living with cancer. From then on, I started to realize that it could wasn't me that need helps, but out there , there is always somebody who desperately need to talk to someone. Someone whom they feel could understand their feeling and relate what they are going through.
Now, I have made my own conclusion. Share what ever piece of cake that you have, you are making someone happier. That is what support group meant for..... it is a place to give and to receive...

7 comments:

MC said...

To me, it is about having another great family to talk about things in common, and we all understand each other without needing further explain; and this new family can turned out to the another closed family to someone, so much love, strength, laugh, hugs, energy and we walk hand-in-hand together!

You guys made this happened!

arsaili said...

salam, you 'll never walked alone....pinjam Liverpool fc punya word ehehe. Yea..support group is important but ramai yg tak aware abt it

How's your raya? tak sempat nak jumpa, ingat nak kasi kek lapis sarawak...maybe next time

Anonymous said...

Totally agree! When my late husband was diagnosed, we kept it to ourselves, not wanting to worry anyone. Furthermore, being both doctors, we thought we were well equipped mentally, emotionally and knowledgeably. We were very wrong.

Now, I have a little on-line support group of widowed single parents and I am grateful for all the ongoing support and for having a place to vent, to listen and be listened. Empathy is very different from sympathy.
Dr.F

testing said...

Support group means to me, A big family with lot of Brothers and sisters who always give each others full support whenever we need them. I must said Support Group is very important for every cancer survivors, we gain back our confident through this big family.

Thanks to everyone to bring this big family to my life!

Fan said...

Support group means to me, A big family with lot of Brothers and sisters who always give each others full support whenever we need them. I must said Support Group is very important for every cancer survivors, we gain back our confident through this big family.

Thanks to everyone to bring this big family to my life!

草原放歌 said...

you are not alone.
Gambateh,doctor!

Wan's Family said...

You're really a good doc!! hrp dr bertambah sihat.